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imaginarycircus at 11:37am on 03/11/2010
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Someone on my flist (I'm being vague on purpose--she can out herself if she wants to, or not) posted about the Stewart/Colbert Rally to restore sanity and/or fear and said that she found that particular use of "sanity" ableist. I've been going round in circles and I just don't know what to think.
Sanity is clearly set up in opposition to fear mongering in this case. So that right there made me think they don't mean sane as in mentally sound or healthy. They meant sane, as in reasonable and rational. But can you use those words without clipping mental illness as you pass by?
I have a long history of depression and anxiety. I have had those things warp my world view and screw up my ability to deal with normal life pressures and expectations. I've wept on the way to work because I felt like everyone could see how screwed up I was just by glancing at me. I have depression that will not go away and I may have to be on meds for the rest of my life in order to function. The thing is that I do not have the sort of metal illness that causes me to have delusions or really fractures my reality though I do think I have been very unreasonable at times when my depression was unchecked by meds--I have never been as disconnected from reality as my mother used to sometimes get when she was manic.
I think I really just don't find this particular use of "sanity" ableist, but I have this sneaking suspicion that I might be wrong.
Sanity is clearly set up in opposition to fear mongering in this case. So that right there made me think they don't mean sane as in mentally sound or healthy. They meant sane, as in reasonable and rational. But can you use those words without clipping mental illness as you pass by?
I have a long history of depression and anxiety. I have had those things warp my world view and screw up my ability to deal with normal life pressures and expectations. I've wept on the way to work because I felt like everyone could see how screwed up I was just by glancing at me. I have depression that will not go away and I may have to be on meds for the rest of my life in order to function. The thing is that I do not have the sort of metal illness that causes me to have delusions or really fractures my reality though I do think I have been very unreasonable at times when my depression was unchecked by meds--I have never been as disconnected from reality as my mother used to sometimes get when she was manic.
I think I really just don't find this particular use of "sanity" ableist, but I have this sneaking suspicion that I might be wrong.
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I'm with you on the long term depression and lifelong meds. And I'm with you on the issue of 'sanity'.
Heck, to my mind (insane as it is), I feel quite happy to be completely non-pc and use words like insanity. People who get offended at that kind of stuff would get offended at something I say sooner or later.
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But then, I'm bitter.
And I really don't see this use of "sanity" as at all ableist. Saying that it is indicates a clear lack of knowledge of other definitions of the term, since it does, as you say, reference "reasonable and rational" rather than "not crazy."
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I always get a bit prickly when people start labelling words with only one meaning. Many words have different meanings for people and some of them have had different meanings throughout history. It really boils down to the intention of the person using the word. But that's a topic for another day.
I have various levels of depression and messed-up mental health, and I still refer to pajama days as 'getting my sanity back and calming the fuck down'. *shrugs*
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Personally, I'm more annoyed when people say things like "the weather has been so bipolar lately" or "she's totally bipolar - nice one minute and then she snaps." In that case, it mostly bothers me because it perpetuates the misconceptions of what bipolar disorder is. I've had to explain to far too many people that it doesn't mean I go from being happy to sad without warning, which seems to be the common-usage understanding of the word.
So in this case, I'm inclined to agree with your friend above who said people are "just looking to have a snit." This may be an unpopular response, but there you have it.
(Is it okay that I reply to your posts? I know we don't really know each other, but I find you very interesting. I guess in some ways I relate to you because I'm also a writer with a mental illness, and it can be very reassuring to hear about other people who share and overcome the same struggles.)
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I often feel like I got off easy on the mental illness thing because my mother had crippling agoraphobia and panic attacks on top of her bipolar II. She went untreated for many years and her life was so hard and kind of miserable. Once she learned coping skills, how do indentify triggers, and got meds she was like a different person. A happier person. Of course then she almost immediately got cancer so that just sucked.
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As I see it, the people these rallies are targeting - the hatemongers, the fearmongers, the bigots and extremists - are the real crazies here. Sure, I have a mental illness, but they're nuts.
I often feel like I got off easy with my illness as well. The bipolar II has caused plenty of problems in my life, and I still struggle with it almost daily, but I've really only got the one disorder. I also suspect I have some sort of anxiety as well, but I've decided not to open that can of worms because I can function as-is. I'm lucky because I can take one of the kindest bipolar meds (lamictal/lamotrigine) and that's all I need, with minimum side effects. And I feel like I must be lucky when I look at the bipolar I people I've known who have destroyed or at least heavily damaged their lives due to their disorder. Their full-blown manic episodes make my hypomanic or even mixed-state episodes look like a walk in the park, I think. So I start thinking I must have it easy and I have no right complaining... which is something I've noticed most mentally ill and/or abused people have in common.
I don't know if feelings of "getting off easy" for you are at all like they are for me. But if so, and if it makes you undercut your own accomplishments - something my therapist once told me...
Don't feel that you've done nothing and that everything must have been easy because you are doing well. You are where you are because you've worked very hard for it, not because your problems must not have been very big. Take credit for your own efforts, because you deserve credit.
And I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. I can only imagine how much that hurt. *hugs*
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Oh my yes. My parents also were loopy and as a consequence I have very low self esteem. I love my stepdad now that he is sober, but dear Lord did he ever screw me up when I was a kid. *sigh*
I do undercut all my accomplishments. None of my parents went to college and I have a graduate degree, but I tend to feel like it was an easier degree than a law degree or a medical degree because I loved doing it and I didn't have to take any crazy exams. But I earned my MFA and 4.0 average.
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Sometimes I think it's very important for people like us to give ourselves permission to be proud of our accomplishments. It sounds like you have done some wonderful things. You worked hard for them and you do deserve to feel pride.
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I'm glad you have someone who can remind you periodically that you are wonderful. I can't even fathom where I would be without my boyfriend's support over the years.
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I'm also struggling with considerate word use (I loathe the way "PC" gets used by some people as a term of derision) vs. losing vivid metaphors.
And, dammit - there *is* something disordered about thinking the Tea Party can fix things.
But maybe I'm in denial.
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I have similar experience with the words sane and insane. My stepdad always used to refer to my mother as "certifiable" because she was. My family tends to have a very dark twisty sense of humor. My mother was badly agoraphobic and had bipolar II. My stepdad is often blunt and unapologetic and he says some terrible things--especially for a liberal who taught me to be a feminist.
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"unashamed liberal". ;)
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I definitely don't have the time/energy right now to discuss in detail because I'm super sick and barely conscious, but do know that I'm pretty upset by this usage too and I'm not pleased that people keep skimming past it like HAHA NO BIG DEAL. My main point: I don't think Sarah Palin or Glenn Beck or whoever are "insane" or "crazy." They're calculating and know exactly what they're doing. Why couldn't this be the Rally to Restore Reason? (It even sounds better!) Palin/Beck/et al aren't delusional. They have a viewpoint that is different and irrational. I don't appreciate being lumped in with them. I have been disconnected in a way that I am pretty sure they're not. As someone who is actively discriminated against in her professional life, someone who is viewed as unstable, dangerous, and quite probably "insane" by the licensing board even though we all know I'm perfectly competent to be licensed in my field, I'm not happy with this.
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I see how you are interpreting the word(s) and that particular interpretation did not occur to me at all. I don't feel lumped in with Tea Party people. I feel like the word is being used to express the extremely manipulative fear mongering they use to stir up people. And I do see that as a kind of insanity--in that it is not reasonable or rational. It is not remotely based on logic.
I am sorry that this bothers you so much though and I don't want to use words that upset or offend you or any one else. I can totally see your point. Thank you for explaining it to me. You totally didn't owe me an explanation so I really appreciate you doing it when you're sick and I hope you feel better very soon!
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more when I get home again (wash u friend is dragging me out to see Promises, Promises, my life is so hard)
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I relate to a lot of what you say. I have bipolar II and anxiety and I will be on meds for the rest of my life, and I'm totally okay with that because if I were diabetic I would do the same to treat a medical illness, which is what mental illness is. It is never fun to have disconnections from reality; myself, I get something called derealization syndrome, which is extremely frightening, and I get obsessed with insects when I'm not doing well. Fortunately, with medication, I haven't had derealization in over a year, and the bug thing is much much better. I find it interesting that many people with a mental illness -- and please don't take this as personal; it's something that I've noticed A LOT in general -- want to qualify that they (OMG!) do not have the kind of mental illness that has (OMG!) delusions or hallucinations or other shit that pushes an individual with mental illness over the line from affected by mental illness to seriously fucking sick ('scuse mah French!). Even within the community of individuals dealing with mental illness, there is stigma. I do find it hard to say that, yes, unfortunately my particular mental illness can include visual (shadows; buggy-like things) and auditory (ear worms to the extreme; the feeling of someone turning on a radio in one's head) hallucinations. These are far more scary to me than they are dangerous to others, but there is this feeling of embarrassment and shame that comes with admitting to such symptoms. OTOH, I think it's perfectly reasonable to discuss one's own experience, and that includes saying "I have X,Y,Z symptoms, but not A,B,C symptoms." Because that is factual. But I do find it interesting that so many people say they "only" have depression, rather than, say, they "only" have schizophrenia, when in truth mental illness, IMO, is a continuum of conditions that each manifests in different ways, and can be equally devastating on an individual level. Of course people are affected more or less, depending. I guess I'm no better, though, because I put in the qualifier that I have bipolar II (depressive) rather than bipolar (manic), because there is that stigma with being known to have mania. It's just something I think about a lot.
Uh, I completely hijacked your post. I apologize! And, again, I hope I'm not coming across as suggesting that you stigmatize mental illness -- I do not believe that at all. Your thoughts just provoked a response on my part that I have been thinking about for a while, and I hope you don't mind that I discussed them here.
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Personally, I liked
Why couldn't this be the Rally to Restore Reason?
Because yeah - specifics of the rally's point aside, I think the words 'sanity/insanity' are nebulous enough/context-heavy terms that it shouldn't be used for naming such broad, over-reaching, publicly inclusive events like a rally, y'know?
Oh hai, guess I do have an opinion, lol.
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I think word meanings do change, significantly, over time. I think the general population today uses "insane" to mean a number of things, none of which actually refer to any sort of mental illness, aside from when the word "criminally" is attached. I'd argue (despite having a terrible tendency to use the word myself) that this isn't the case with "retarded" -- I'm certain kids today are still using that very word to refer to the developmentally disabled -- but I'm equally sure that "insane" has migrated, for lack of a better term, into meaning something else now.
"Insane" now refers to things as varied as the manner in which your dog might act when he's excited to see you when you come home from work, to the amount of snow that has fallen somewhere, to the idea of putting Jay Leno on at 10 pm every weeknight, to the near-magical powers of magnets, to any number of political beliefs. All of that, but it does NOT seem to be used to refer to people with serious mental illnesses, who now would, I think, be much more likely to be tagged with the name of their condition or with the generic "mentally ill." I can't offhand come up with (and maybe I shouldn't try) an intentionally offensive term, but I can't really see "insane" being used in that way, either.
I feel even more strongly about "lame," which I seriously don't think anyone under the age of 60 or so has EVER used in reference to someone who limps. In that case, more strongly because the common use of the word no longer refers to a physical condition whatsoever, while "insane" has taken on these meanings that do refer to mental states, but without any of the original clinical meanings. (Similarly, "dummy," which really no longer is ever used to refer to someone who can't speak.)
Does any of that make sense whatsoever? To me, it's as if, on a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 means the word has no meaning whatsoever connected to its original meaning, and 10 means it still completely has that original meaning, I'd have to say the "n word" remains a 10 (so much so that we talk around it rather than just putting the actual words in quotation marks), "retarded" is probably an 8, "insane" is a 4 or maybe 5, and "lame" and "dumb" are to me at least, a 1, because they've become so separated from their original meanings.
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To the extent that the furor is about "OMG, we're talking down to people with medical disabilities", this isn't a word that describes a medical disability. I have a hard time seeing the use of the word as abelist if it doesn't actually carry that history and it makes me (as a word geek) peevish when folks expect me to restrict my use of a word without really knowing what it means. But I kind of suspect that I sound like Humpty-dumpty here, so I'll shut up now.
Contrariwise, based on the historical meaning of sane and insane, I think insane is exactly the word that we should be using to describe the Tea Party and, depending on how peevish I am on that particular day, larger or smaller swathes of the media. If we're talking about folks like Michelle Bachmann and Christine O'Donnell, I feel like "the lack of ability to make composed and rational decisions" is the perfect way to describe them.
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I have other problems with things that went down at the rally, but this seems like an important one too.
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